I snapped the first time when yoBro refused to deal with me when my offer was as good as the other ones, my offer came first and I really needed the deal because I was waaay behind. It was of course my fault cause some rounds earlier I robbed him. After the refused deal I was like: “Well, this doesn’t make sense any longer, there’s no chance I’ll ever get near winning, so I give up.” So much for calmness and relaxation on my part. ARGL!
The second came when - in the next game - victory was only one point away for me. When yoBro saw my cards he said loud: “Jeck needs this and that to win.” This was unfair because the robber was about to be placed, it’s against the rules and within victory within reach I was very excited. So I snapped at him: “WHAT THE FUCK WAS THAT FOR?” All he said was: “Well, it was against the rules but I’d do it again in a minute.”
After the game I tried to explain yoBro what made me snap but he said, that my emotional stability was my problem. As anger rose again I told him that he might be right, but that if he can’t tolerate that I’ll snap if he breaks the rules in such a situation, we can’t play together any longer.
So he - somehow - admitted that this would be the way to go. I’ll try to be calmer and he’ll try not to push buttons…
Geez. Were board games invented with ‘fun’ and ’socializing’ in mind? How many divorces have been submitted because of them? And where can I find enough Zen to be relaxed about a game?
I used to be a very ambitious player too. In every game. (long story with me and my older bro) But some day (about three years ago) we (not family of course; that’s always special) played and somehow I forgot about winning and it was very much fun. Though I have to admit that it does not always work. Let’s be true: it’s not always fun just to play. But I try not to be pissed after the game.
I remember some discussions and minor arguments with my (ex-)girl-friends because of board games. I could write a thesis about it.
And I guess, we’d better not play “Diplomacy” together. Great game, but very emotional. I still remember one game which is more than ten years ago.
BTW: I wanted to play Settlers this evening too, but than opted for watching “Tatort” (a good episode, at least).
I was a pro in this concerning my brother. And boy, did he snap.
*shrug*
If people cheat at a game whats the point in playing?
There are some games like D&D where you can break the rules, the game is a shared narative not a competition, the rules are just there to resolve conflict. So if you break the rules to enhance the narrative for everyone it isn’t cheating.
Still in most cases people cheat to win, cheat at cards to get money, cheat in counter strike to ‘0wnz’ people.
However, in this case sounds like the cheat did it in a perverse form of D&D type cheating, they didn’t want to win but modify the game ‘narrative’ to be painful to you. So, in closing you snapped in the first instance and were thus a bad loser, which isn’t exactly cool. But gaming with such a player, who will gleefully cheat with the sole intent to pain you, seems masochistic.